The Most Awful Words You Will Ever Hear

At last you had fallen in love.

It was wonderful.

You were sure that it would last forever.

You had finally met the person of our dreams.

It was magic.

Your entire world was different.

You felt alive…all over.

Whole, connected to the world and everybody in it.

Then, as the years drifted slowly by, subtly, how in the name of God this happened you do not know but that magical feeling began to give way to doubt, confusion and finally it disappeared.

The love, gone.

The pain, overwhelming.

The passion, vanished.

Disillusioned, your dreams shattered, confusion and pain gave way to anger and betrayal.

And finally you heard these words…

The most awful words you have ever heard…

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore.”
“We got married for all the wrong reasons.”
“I’m not attracted to you anymore.”
“Why can’t you admit that we just made a mistake?”
“My affair isn’t the reason our marriage isn’t working.”
“I never really loved you in the first place.”
“It’s time to tell the kids it’s over.”

Searing, awful, terrible words.

But sadly, all too familiar words for far too many married couples.

What is more painful than a loveless marriage?

You ache all over when you wake up in the morning.

You feel sick, disoriented and dizzy all day.

The rejection and blackness you feel in the night hours is overwhelming.

This is so not what you signed up for.

How could this have happened – to you?

Didn’t you both promise to love, honor, and cherish each other through good times and bad, through sickness and through health, for richer or poorer until death do you part?

It feels like it, but surely, ending your marriage is not the answer.

To not try and do something, to just give up, there must be something you can do, anything.

The trouble is, your spouse doesn’t seem to care or think there is anything really wrong except of course with you.

And, chances are, what you’ve been doing to convince him or her that there is something terribly wrong seems to have only made things worse.

You want keep your marriage together  – you do have children – but you aren’t quite sure what to do next.

That’s Why I’m Glad You Found Your Way Here.
Because Helping Mend Broken Marriages Is What I Do.

But first, let me tell you a little bit about myself.

For thirty years I have been a marriage therapist, a specialist in helping couples make their broken marriages work.

My doctoral dissertation focused on how to resolve conflict and resentment in a broken marriage.

From my daily practice and my doctoral work, here is what I have learned.

Most marriages can be saved; in fact 93% of the couples I work with stay together happily so.

Divorce doesn’t always bring happiness.

In fact, most of us romanticize divorce the way we once romanticized marriage.

In most cases, divorce only serves to create more problems than it solves.

Thus, I am a zealot for marriage.

I help people keep their marriages and families together, if at all possible.

I know how to help couples (you) fall back in love again.

And most of the time, I (we) succeed.

I have created a process based on my 30 year practice and doctoral dissertation, that has enabled me to help hundreds of couples rekindle their love, even couples with “dead on arrival marriages.”

We know that even the happiest of couples can get nasty sometimes.

But research by John Gottman suggests that as long as the ratio of positive to negative interactions remains at least five (positive) to one (negative), the relationship remains loving, positive, robust and  sturdy.

When the ratio dips below that 5:1 ratio, he says that 94 out of every 100 couples will divorce.

In the therapeutic process that I have developed, after 7 weeks couples stop arguing entirely – this is true for even the most angry and conflicted marriages..

So there is hope for you!

If the road to marriage recovery has been a lonely one for you so far, that’s about to change.

Because saving marriages is what I do.

If or when we connect, you will be quite surprised by how well I know and understand the issues with which you’ve been struggling.

More importantly, you will learn everything you need to know to heal your relationship and to divorce-proof your marriage.

I look forward to working with you.