One to One Internet Marriage Counselling
Welcome.
If you’re trying to save your marriage but your partner doesn’t, you’ve come to the right place.
It’s never too late to turn things around with your spouse.
I have over 45 years of experience helping people save their marriages.
Before you read all of the information on this page, here are some things you need to know:
Take a Deep Breath
We know this is the most difficult time in your life, but we are going to help you come up with a plan to save your marriage and that will make you feel better right away.
Stop pressuring your spouse to work on your marriage.
It’s natural to try to talk sense into your spouse and get him or her to see the good your marriage and commit to working things out.
But your spouse starts to feel pressured and your well-intentioned efforts backfire.
You end up actually pushing your spouse out the door!
What is that?
There’s a more productive way to get through to your spouse
For over 45 years I have been helping couples restore their love even when one spouse wanted out of the marriage.
So yes, I will be your personal Zoom coach throughout the entire process.
You will not be pawned off on to a less experienced or less qualified associate.
I will personally help you decide what you need to do differently to get things back on track.
It’s not that you haven’t been trying hard enough.
It is much more likely that hat you are not quite sure what to do.
I will help guide you through the labyrinth that has become your life.
Plus, you don’t need to ask your spouse to speak with me.
I can help without his/her participation.
Please, don’t waste any more time, call 905-893-2463 to schedule an appointment.
Every day that passes with hurt and anger is another wasted day of your life.
Take the energy you’ve been wasting feeling hurt, devastated and dead inside and start fighting for your marriage today!
Gary is a Veteran Marriage Saving Coach
At KCI, we believe in the sanctity of marriage and that the majority of divorces in our country are unnecessary.
You’ll never hear us tell you that you should just “move on with your life”.
We don’t get discouraged when people tell us, “But my spouse said, “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore” or “My spouse is having an affair and won’t give it up.”
We hear that all the time.
It’s not a marital death sentence, by any means.
We believe that people and relationships can change and we want to help you do the same.
At KCI, We Believe In Skill-Building
In our view, most divorces happen because people simply don’t have the skills to find their way out of trying and frustrating relationship problems.
I will teach you the skills you need to approach your spouse with fresh ideas and get your relationship back on track.
Although love feels magical, it isn’t magic.
My doctoral research and 30 years of experience working as a marital therapist have taught me a great deal about how to create a healthy, satisfying relationship.
Staying in love isn’t a matter of luck.
I have been in a loving marriage for 50 years.
I walk the talk and can teach you to do the same.
You Will Receive Gary’s 367 Page Workbook
“How to Have a Great Marriage”
If you are familiar with Gary’s work, you’ll know that his program has a 93% success ratio.
Rather than analyzing why you’re stuck, you will explore the future rather than the past, being highly specific in regards to identifying the steps you need to take to accomplish your goals.
It’s easy to feel lost and devastated when your spouse is considering calling it quits.
Gary will give you an emotional compass and a detailed map for leaving the pain behind.
Your Zoom Call is Strictly Confidential and Very Convenient
Picking up a phone can be a whole lot more comfortable and private than walking into an office building for a face-to-face appointment.
Plus, it’s much more convenient too.
You choose the time and date.
You can be in your P.J.’s at home, in a dress or three piece suit at work, or you can even call from your cell phone when you’re on the run.
It’s entirely up to you.
What does Internet Coaching Provide That I Can’t Get From Reading Books?
Unlike other relationship experts who offer one-size-fits-all solutions to relationship problems, Gary believes that every individual and every couple is unique and requires solutions that fit their relationship, not their neighbor’s relationship down the street.
When you talk with Gary, you will learn the four major pillars upon which to build your marriage.
He will help you personalize the ideas you’ve been reading about and assist you in coming up with an action plan that fits your life circumstances, personality, values and problem-solving style.
By the end of your internet session you will feel clear about the steps you need to take when you hang up.
Another advantage of coaching is that you can have specific questions answered that you may have been perplexing you for years.
In fact, as you read the workbook, you might consider making notes in the margin about issues you’d like to address with Gary.
This will make your reading experience truly interactive.
Additionally, as your coach I will be your cheerleader, offering support for your accomplishments, your solution-oriented steps, and your triumphs.
This is something even the best of books can’t do.
Being truly supportive is extremely important because it’s hard to make a relationship work, especially when things get tough.
I understands the stress all too well and promise to give you the encouragement you need to stick to your plan and get back on track when you’ve had a bad day.
In a very real sense, my job is to help you feel that I am standing on the sidelines, cheering you on as you focus your energies on repairing your relationship and maintaining a stable family life in the interim.
Can All Marriages be Saved?
No.
We wish we could answer, “Yes,” but the reality is, we can’t.
There are undeniably some people who feel that whatever their spouses do to change themselves, it is too little, too late but most marriages can be saved.
Your marriage – although it feels hopeless and miserable – can be saved!
However, some people in relationships that are plagued with severe problems such as chronic infidelity or substance abuse manage to do what they must in the eleventh hour to turn things around.
While other people with only minor, petty problems end up calling it quits.
It’s impossible to identify those who will make it from those who won’t in advance.
You should know though, that 99% of the people who call me have relationships that are teetering on the brink of divorce – there are affairs, separations, or divorces that have already been filed for – and many of these relationships not only survive, they flourish.
Whether in actual counselling sessions or during an internet marriage coaching call, although we know not all marriages can be saved, we will approach yours with the belief that you will beat the odds.
Why? Several reasons.
First of all, we understand the devastation divorce leaves in its wake that goes without saying.
We also understand how important it is to you to know that, regardless of the end result, you have tried everything humanly possible to save your marriage.
And finally, helping you create a plan to deal with your current crisis will give you peace of mind, something that will come in very handy during the weeks, months that follow.
In fact, even when a relationship can’t be saved, the vast majority of people in those relationships have told me that the advice and support they received saved their sanity and helped them feel that they had done everything possible to salvage their marriage so that closure came more readily.
What Will Happen During a Zoom/Internet Consultation?
It’s natural for you to have questions about your consultation, especially if you’ve never done this before.
As your coach I will need to know about what you are hoping to accomplish in your marriage.
In other words, before calling, you should give some thought to the question, “What are my goals for the session?” “What kind of marriage help do I want from my coach?”
And you should be specific.
For example, instead of saying, “I want to improve my relationship,” you might say something like, “My husband and I are separated and we don’t have a lot of contact. I would like for you to help me figure out some ways to send the message that I am changing.”
Or, “My wife keeps telling me that no matter how I change, it won’t make a difference.
I would like some suggestions about how I might respond to her when she says that.”
You get the picture.
I will however also help you clarify the places that you need more help; that will help us accelerate the healing process.
Since we are very goal-oriented, I want to help you get the most of your time on the phone.
On the other hand, I been doing this long enough to know that sometimes, when your spouse drops the bomb, you don’t know which end is up.
It becomes very difficult to think clearly and specific goal setting is not something you feel you can do at the moment.
That of Course is Quite Normal
So I will help you get a better handle on which aspects of your situation you should focus on first.
Somewhere early in your conversation, you will want to give Gary a brief description of the problems you’ve been experiencing.
You won’t want to go into every single detail of you life or discuss the details of each and every argument you and your spouse have had recently.
It will take too much time.
Instead, we will highlight the events that have led up to your current marital problems.
I will also need a description of your situation so far.
You should be ready to talk about what you’ve tried so far to make your relationship work, which of your efforts have paid off and which haven’t.
Once I have an understanding about your goals, the events leading up to your current situation, what you’ve tried in the past, it will be time to brainstorm new ideas, strategies and methods of approaching your situation and/or your spouse so that the two of you will have a better chance of mending your relationship.
I often give “homework assignments” based on the ideas you discussed during the session.
When your spouse seems dead set against working things out, it can be really stressful for you and when you’re hurting, it’s often hard to see solutions that might be right under your nose.
I’ll help you gain clarity on your situation and offer you suggestions about what to do next.
How Do I Schedule a Zoom Session?
You can schedule a telephone consultation by calling KCI at 905-893-2463.
You can also email us at garyburge@sympatico.ca.
We will get back to you by 5:00 that day.
How Often Should I Speak With Gary?
It varies.
Some people schedule one phone session and find that it’s enough to point them in the right direction.
But more often than not, people end up scheduling several sessions.
We will want to allow enough time in between sessions for you to implement the ideas you discussed and begin to get the results you want and need.
On subsequent calls, we will determine which aspects of your plan work best or whether you need to switch gears.
Although some people opt to schedule several sessions at once, most make that determination session by session.
How Long is the Session?
The session lasts fifty minutes.
When is Gary Available?
Daytime, evening and weekend hours available.
How Much Does It Cost?
The cost for Zoom sessions is the same as regular appointments:
Weekdays 9:00 – 5:00: $250.00/hour plus HST.
Evenings: $250.00/hour plus HST
Weekends (Saturdays): $265.00/hour plus HST .
Payable by credit card, etransfer at the time you schedule your consultation.
What Is Your Cancellation Policy?
Because Gary is reserving this time especially for you, we cannot refund your money nor reschedule you phone consultation time.
For this reason, make sure you are available during the time slot you choose when scheduling your appointment.